Posts by 38 Years

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Non-JW seeking help

by mamaof3 in

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i've got a jw meeting with me every week.

she's been coming for 4 months.

i don't want to give up on her.

I voluntarily left after, well, 38 Years. I truly believed but eventually I realized that something was wrong. They didn't disfellowship me, I just slowly stopped attending meetings over a number of years. I was getting very suspicious of the headquarters in Brooklyn. The Witnesses are totally spoon fed information by their Governing Body in Brooklyn. They will not dispute anything they have been taught as they have been taught Brooklyn gives them all their spiritual food and the Governing Body is appointed by Jesus and Jehovah. (They always have scriptures to back up all of this). In 1975, "They" convinced their congregation members around the world that Armegeddon was coming, but when it didn't they denied everything and blamed it on the over-zealous people in the congregations. They keep changing rules about blood transfusions and what is allowed and not allowed. They discourage their members from getting an education. They won't allow divorce unless a spouse commits adultery or you get abused so badly, you have to prove it to them. The "They" I am referring to is the Governing Body. There are plenty of other examples, but basically you have to do what "They" tell you to do, or else. If you don't, you can be disfellowshippped and your family can never speak or have anything to do with you again. If you do, you will be disfellowshipped too. If you are not one of Jehovah's Witnesses or get thrown out of the congregation, you will die at Armegeddon. If you don't go out and preach and get Bible Studies, you will be accountable for other people's lives. By the way, they have an internal campaign going (again) that Armegeddon is coming very, very soon. This keeps everyone scared and under control.

In short, I had a feeling I was brainwashed, and when I got out and looked back, I was right. So that's why I left.

You could ask her if JWs teach that everyone who is not a Jehovah's Witness will die at Armegeddon. If she tap dances around it, she is lying. Also, Witnesses are taught to get away from anyone that causes doubt in their mind, so be careful or she will drop you like a hot potato.

Please let us know how things are progressing. Every person that can get out of the control of Jehovah's Witnesses will have a better chance at a happier life and freedom to think spiritually for themselves.

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Jws act like they don't remember their past teachings

by Blindbutnowisee in

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two jws came knocking to my door.

instead of ingnoring the knock, i decided to answer.

with fixed smiles on their faces, one of the ladys offer me a flyer concerning the district convention.

38 Years

I was in the org. from 1956 to 1983 - and they definitely expected armageddon in 1975 no matter how much they lie about it now.

I was baptized in 1968. You are absolutely right. They are bold faced liars and anyone that doesn't admit the 1975 disaster is lying to themselves and others.

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Anyone been to this JW site?

by Tatiana in

http://e-jehovahs-witnesses.com/forum/index.php?showtopic=330&pid=3878&mode=threaded&start=0#entry3878.

i may be late, and it may have been posted before, but i just came across this site that seems to have many jws posting and it's an eye opener for sure.

i read many posts, and some posters are just a step away from being here.

38 Years

Yes. I had been to this site a few times while I was lurking on this one and still researching the Borg to get out. I didn't like the other site because it was too pro-Borg. I had done too much research to listen to anymore Dub terminology and logic.

I feel bad for this woman being trapped. I didn't find her exact posting, but I hope those guys didn't pounce all over her and make her feel guilty. She defininately needs to be here.

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Sister/Brother *** is disfellowshipped for.....

by Bonnie_Clyde in

in the 1950's i remember they used to say what they were disfellowshipped for, whether it be fornication, stealing, etc.

then it was disfellowshipped for "loose conduct", then "conduct not becoming a christian.

" then it was simply "disfellowshipped" or "disassociated.

38 Years

In the 1950's I remember they used to say what they were disfellowshipped for, whether it be fornication, stealing, etc. Then it was disfellowshipped for "loose conduct", then "conduct not becoming a Christian." Then it was simply "disfellowshipped" or "disassociated." Now its "Brother/Sister *** is not longer one of Jehovah's Witnesses." Does anyone else remember it that way?

Yup...and there was a time you could send in a da letter and not be shunned...

I remember both of these. I didn't start going to the KH until 1967. So if it happened in the 50's, the elders in my congregation must not have been reading the letters from the Society. I remember some people used to cry after the announcement was read. I also remember when they stopped mentioning the reason behind the DF, and that led to a lot of rumor and speculation.

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Ever Got the blame?? (sorry if post is too long)

by sparrow in

i have been df'd for around 4 years and have not got my back up about the org until this year.

only this last year have i been looking around for answers and started realising there is a foundation for my reasons of not going back.

at first i was happy that it wasn't because i was making excuses for not going back but bad things were happening outside of the people i know across the org.. what pissed me off the most (and the reason i found this site) is because i got the blame for my brother in-law having sex in my house with someone other than his wife (my sister) because i am not witness and thus have low standards.. i'll try to keep this short: i have 2 sisters, one brother and 2 parents (fancy that) both remarried however.

38 Years

Good grief! This could be a script for a TV show! Sounds like these folks need to grow up a little. Hang in there.

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Russell's Gravesite Pictures - (just got back from Pittsburgh)

by thecarpenter in

well folks, got back from my trip to see russell's grave site.

it was quite a interesting experience and sobering to see the pyramid right by his tombstone.

i'm kind of tired and will be hitting the sack soon but i wanted to post a few pictures.

38 Years

Thanks thecarpenter!

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Since mentally leaving JWs I finally can......

by R.F. in

do household chores without the rush....... spend time with my little neice(now fatherless) without worrying..."i need to take her back home, i gotta study that wt lesson for tomorrow!".

hang out with my younger brother without thinking..."crap it's monday...that lesson in the "revelation" book ain't studying itself!".

visit my sister without thinking......."should i see her before the meeting or after field service?

38 Years

Getting free has changed my life in so many ways. With each day that passes, everything becomes more enjoyable because you lose that guilty voice in your head saying that everything and everybody is bad. The gloom and doom that once ran your life is gone!

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How many happy JW marriages do you know of?

by Bonnie_Clyde in

just reading frequent flyer miles on the subject of feeling guilty for having a happy marriage with a non-jw.. in our congregation which i haven't attended for about a year, i can only think of two or three who seem to be happy.

of course, i don't know what happens behind closed doors, but i know of several who admit they are unhappy.

i wrote out a long list of couples who have divorced over the last 20 years--including three elders (one is on his second divorce).

38 Years

I only suspected one or two happy couples in all of my years as a Witness in different congregations. Most of the married couples are miserable and stuck. It's especially worse when they get married so young. I know several couples of all age groups, where the spouse just went ahead and committed adultry just to end the misery. Then they would work to get reinstated. It was very sad to watch and listen to.

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Just got a phone call

by ex-nj-jw in

just got a call from my jw mom, she wanted to let me know that my dad was taken to the hospital friday!!

!, he had another heart attack.

he is on a ventilator and needs bypass surgery (again) but the doctors can't operate since his hemoglobin is low and he has been on coumadin (blood thinner).

38 Years

I learned last week that my father is in the hospital and will be there a while, so I'm planning to fly out next week. He's not critical, but it may be time to start talking about nursing homes. He's not pleasant to deal with, but it has to be taken care of.

I think seeing your dad is a good idea. It's better not to look back and possibly regret not going. I'm going through some family hassles too, but I know this will probably be the last time I will see him due to the distance and expense.

Let us know how things go for you. Take care.

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Guilt over a happy marriage

by Frequent_Fader_Miles in

long before i began my fade, there was a certain "sister" in the congo who married a non-jw man.

she was very happily married despite of all the forecasts of "doom and gloom" among the "friends".

how sad it was to hear her make the following comment in conversation - "sometimes i feel badly about marrying an unbeliever, since other sisters may look at me and follow my example.

38 Years

My parents didn't split up until I was 32 years old. My mom loves being a dub, but my father quit many years earlier. They didn't get along, even before we became dubs. Joining the dubs made it worse because she wouldn't take the opportunities to leave him until she had scriptural grounds. It took all those years for him to hit her, then she went to the elders and got permission to leave. In the meantime, it was a long, miserable childhood.